07 April, 2014

F - Fake

Caution: I was going to write about Fart Jokes but circumstances had me thinking in another direction. Small, little impromptu rant here. Please bear with me.

I look around me and see so many people pretending to be what they are not. Ugly pouting, teens flashing skin in dresses that women twice their age should be wearing, people lying about their real selves, real lives, men trying a little too hard, the management going slightly overboard in their efforts to please, those speeches written carefully to make the workers at the bottom rung feel better about being overworked and under appreciated, the slightly forced smiles, the putting on of airs .... The list goes on.

Why aren't we just honest?

When the best friend shows up like candy floss, ain't it our duty to tell her rather than sparing her feelings rather than attracting comment from someone who will not care about her feelings? Why would you make 'friends' only to ensure that you had something to do during the weekends and to get invited to all the house parties? Why all the hugging and the kissing and the love, when all you really want is company for when your boyfriend/girlfriend is not around? Why lie about the cost of those shoes/handbags/whatevernot? Why spend so much money on branded clothes just so that you can talk about it in front of your friends? Why bother turning up at birthdays when you don't have five minutes to record a message for the birthday girl? (Not talking about myself, btw :P)

I'm not asking anyone to be rude, I understand that for people to get along, you also need to be mature enough to suck it up and deal with it sometimes. But those white lies. 

So you start with one small fake-ry. Then to cover that up you have to make up a back story. With that comes an attitude that no one really buys. After that comes the flurry of white lies to make the story sound authentic.... It is a cycle, really. One that doesn't fool anyone at the end of the day.

It is almost like lying. Wait. It IS lying.

I might not be a lot of things and God knows that I am flawed as much or more than anyone else but one thing I can proudly say is that I have never faked any emotion, compliment or action of mine. Or anything else for that matter. Though I have had this girl say that the person I claim to be on the blog is not the real person that I am, making me question myself, I am convinced, the more people I meet, the more life makes me experience, that I do not have it in me to fake it. With me, what you see is what you get. While most of the time that works against me, I can safely make statements like this on my blog and rest in peace that I write only what I believe in, that I live my beliefs.

I firmly believe in the policy of living and letting others live. Every philosophy and principle of mine has roots in that one policy. But when you see people faking everything right down to their very existence, trying to convince themselves that their opinions and tastes are superior, their lives itself are superior (in comparison to I-don't-know-what) I wonder if I should lose it to the frustration I feel or switch to ascetic mode (which a lot of people have suggested but for the dragon with the temper that I am, it is very close to impossible).

Has it really come to this?
I still haven't found out the secret to dealing with fakes.
Have you?

37 comments:

  1. Switch to ascetic mode. Always. :) There is no point in working yourself up over things that when they come down to it, do not matter in the grand scheme of things! Think about it..

    And if that does not work, go work out. It helps. A LOT. :P

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    1. Thinking about the grand scheme of things helps sometimes. And yes, I shall try the working out :P Thanks, yo!

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  2. True..every bit of it
    Fake is the new trend baby and everyone seems to be in fashion

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    1. So true. Every one and their uncle :/

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  3. Knowing that honesty comes with a price, most people who rather resort to white lies. I think it stems from a need to be liked. Rather be diplomatic than be brutally honest :/

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    1. Diplomacy has lost its meaning, don't you think? And brutal honesty is very much under used :/

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  4. I have been told I am blunt. Oh well. People are uneasy in their own skin often and in this era of keeping up with the Jones-it doesn't seem to get any better. I do my best now to ignore them-they are all around like flies at a picnic but I swoosh them away and do my own thing:)

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    1. I prefer blunt over diplomacy any day, Birgit :)

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  5. Hahaha! Is there a 'right' way to deal with fakes, PeeVee? Nope! All you can do is just watch their silly games and fume. Have been doing it for a long long time. Arrrgh!

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    1. Haha, maybe the word should have been 'work-able' way :P You are perfect the way you are, the fakes in your life can go boil their head :)

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  6. i believe that we are answerable to our own self alone and not to anyone else...... so don't worry about people telling you anything differently.... no one is so perfect to judge anyone else.

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    1. Exactly. Why can't we be true to our own selves? Too much to ask apparently :(

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  7. I hate it when I call a relative and they tell me 'GUESS WHAT! I WAS JUST ABOUT TO CALL YOU'
    I mean seriously why lie about the fact that my existence did not even cross your mind. Even I called you for a favour anyway! :P

    We could do with a little bit of blunt honesty.

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    1. I know, right!! :P That's happened to me so many times. I make no bones about it, why should the other person?

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  8. Can I share this post on FB? Your words truly resonate! Jesus! You know, there are people around who even give fake smiles, and their eyes are like dead, I hate it absolutely! And if you notice, no body stands up for anyone anymore. Everyone's busy creating seats for their own arses!

    Good one PeeVee!

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    1. Please do :P More hits for me!

      On a serious note, the fake smiles are so fake, they are not fooling anybody anyway, yet the charade is kept up. And yes, nobody cares much further than the selfies they have to click and the dramas they have to play out to fulfill their own needs.

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  9. Oh yes, play along and smile, if you cannot smile at them, then smile at what they are trying to be. And at the risk of losses, smile down on them?

    Blasphemous Aesthete

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    1. Something that someone else also told me. And works like a charm without you having to say a word :)

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  10. The branded bags and shoes annoy me to no extent. What's the point? And those kisses in the air... the fake love! I try to stay away from fake people. I don't totally ignore them but they are certainly not my friends.

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    1. When the world is overrun by this kind, I find myself hard-pressed to find a handful of genuine people beyond my immediate circle :(

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  11. This is so true. The plasticity in today's world makes me wary.
    I can gladly say that never have i ever complimented or said anything that wasn't from the bottom of my heart.

    xo
    Hopelessly hopeful
    http://welcometomypartypeople.blogspot.com/

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    1. Good for you, girl! Be proud of that :)

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  12. All the time.

    Just let them be. They never listen -_-

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  13. Also. You've been so regular! :D :D :D :D

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    1. I wonder if there is a cure :(

      And there goes my streak :P

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  14. Nice post...

    but at some point of time all of us pretend to something that we are not... isn't that a human nature? havn't you been in the same shoes?

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    1. Do we? Pretend to be something we are not? I don't think I have because if I feel insecure or just not in sync, I go deathly quiet, that's my coping mechanism. I don't think there is a need to be even if you are just trying to fit in.

      Thanks for dropping by :)

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  15. Came here looking for chocolate and got a very perceptive commentary instead. Enjoyed it, thanks!

    Beth
    http://bethlapinsatozblog.wordpress.com/

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  16. Excellent post for 'F'. Linked to you from my 'I' post of the #AtoZChallenge

    http://www.e-bookbuilders.com/2014/04/indie-isnt-easy/

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    1. Thank you so much! Aren't you a darling :)<3

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  17. Awesome article prefer, its faking right ;) what some of us do to this is just smile back at those fakers as if "I know what you faking for" and they will drown in their guilt.

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    1. -_- we shall have a chat about this, Jamieboy.

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  18. There's no secret. You just tell, it's for their own good. Some people behave like being fake is the real trend now.

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    1. SO true. And we look out of place when we don't fake. I don't know where this whole thing is going :/

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  19. I could have written this post (except it would not have come out so good and with so many well thought out points) I too criticize my friends and compliment them equally, so I have very few friends, coz really few people appreciate this kind of honesty.

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    1. And those few friends will stick around no matter what and isn't that all we really need :)

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