In life, how will we know that the decisions that we taken (the ones that matter anyway) are the right ones?
For example, we decide to move to a foreign land with our family on a permanent visa after 15 years of dreaming of it (and quitting a perfectly stable, well-paying and permanent post) though we know that there is no job waiting for us there and nobody even remotely close to family or friends. How do we know if it is the right decision to actually live the dream?
Or we take a decision to pursue something that’s opposite to what we planned for, dreamt of. Change our whole lives based on a hunch that plan A might be better than plan B; how do we know that plan B is what we are supposed to be doing in the first place?
Or fall in love. How do we know that this is the person we are supposed to spend the rest of our lives with? How do we know that we’ll have the same romance, beautiful and lasting beyond death, which our grandparents have? How do we know that it is not the biggest miscalculation that we ever made?
How do we decide to leave behind family and friends when they need us the most, just because we think we can do more for them by leaving than staying and know that is what we are meant to do, rather than be with them?
How can we make sure that we are doing what God wants us to; what he has written for us??
The thing is, we CAN’T know. We just have to take a deep breath, just do it and get it over with…. More importantly, live with it afterward. If we are lucky and have been true to our conscience, the happiness comes. Otherwise, rot in personal hell...
:D Ok…maybe not hell, but certainly with the knowledge of what could have been and what made the difference were the decisions we made.
For example, we decide to move to a foreign land with our family on a permanent visa after 15 years of dreaming of it (and quitting a perfectly stable, well-paying and permanent post) though we know that there is no job waiting for us there and nobody even remotely close to family or friends. How do we know if it is the right decision to actually live the dream?
Or we take a decision to pursue something that’s opposite to what we planned for, dreamt of. Change our whole lives based on a hunch that plan A might be better than plan B; how do we know that plan B is what we are supposed to be doing in the first place?
Or fall in love. How do we know that this is the person we are supposed to spend the rest of our lives with? How do we know that we’ll have the same romance, beautiful and lasting beyond death, which our grandparents have? How do we know that it is not the biggest miscalculation that we ever made?
How do we decide to leave behind family and friends when they need us the most, just because we think we can do more for them by leaving than staying and know that is what we are meant to do, rather than be with them?
How can we make sure that we are doing what God wants us to; what he has written for us??
The thing is, we CAN’T know. We just have to take a deep breath, just do it and get it over with…. More importantly, live with it afterward. If we are lucky and have been true to our conscience, the happiness comes. Otherwise, rot in personal hell...
:D Ok…maybe not hell, but certainly with the knowledge of what could have been and what made the difference were the decisions we made.
That's a good way of looking at it, actually. As Richard Bach says, "Some choices we live not only once but a thousand times over, remembering them for the rest of our lives."
ReplyDelete@ Sumit, true... surprising to see how different life would've been if we had made different choices.....
ReplyDeleteIs there anything called an absolute right? Right is, as is everything else, just a relative thing. Applying too much of grey cells into such things and trying to find out logic in it kills the beauty of living. Live for and in the present.
ReplyDelete@ Mahesh, living for the present might lead to a thought process at a later date leading on the lines of "would I have been better off taking the other way" reasoning. Na? That's what this is about.
ReplyDeleteI have always wondered how my impromptu decisions, seemingly life-changing ones, have taken me down a path I never saw for myself. And though I don't have any regrets, I have often wondered if this was the right way for me.
That's a good way of looking at it, actually. As Richard Bach says, "Some choices we live not only once but a thousand times over, remembering them for the rest of our lives."
ReplyDeleteExactly. Something that feels right to me, may not be the way to go for you!
ReplyDeleteAnd you never really know what to do, and what not to.
So I guess you have to do what feels right to you, and then live with it! And if it turns bad, maybe have the courage to start afresh OR continue to soldier on!
That's a excellent way of looking at it, actually. As Rich Pachelbel says, "Some options we stay not only once but a million periods over, keeping in mind them for the remainder of our lifestyles
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